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Social Capital aka Your Village


Self-Care Practice:  
Let your loved ones love you! 
Let them show you their ways of loving you and accept them. 
Do not reject them or stop them.  
Let them make you laugh when you are down.  
Let them love you while you learn to love yourself again. Let them care for you while you learn to care for yourself again.

 Social Capital = your social network that is made of friends, family. Support network. Your village that you can rely on during tough times.   

 As I walked into work I admitted to myself that I had been moping around the office since my friend/partner in crime moved to a new role. I found it annoying that everyone kept checking up on me asking how I was doing, how I was hanging, what was I going to do or worse-- pointing out the obvious like "wow your office looks so empty since she left." I was dick. My responses were smart assery. And I probably made a few faces and rolled my eyes. I am not good at hiding my thoughts, feelings, or reactions--my face tells all. How I was able to lie about my addiction for years? I don't know jaja.
So anyways, as I walked in and acknowledged my true feelings (I'm a fan of denying them--but who isn't?), I decided to change things around. 
I walked into my office and noticed a big bottle of bubbles my friend/partner in crime had bought for my birthday two months ago.
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A bottle like these! But Purple (my favorite color!)

So I messaged my friend/partner in crime if she can create a contract to hire a personal assistant whose only job would be to blow bubbles wherever I go. 

 10 minutes later a friend in the office came over and blew some bubbles.

 A few minutes later as I was standing in the hall talking to another friend, a worker came over and interrupted stating she really really needed to staff something. So I said, "sure let's go to my desk." She rapidly starts listing crazy scenarios for one client as we proceed towards my office. I start to say "breathe" when I was suddenly bombarded with BUBBLES!

 Throughout the day I was blasted with bubbles by different friends/coworkers. I loved every second of it. To all of them, especially my partner in crime--Thank you. 

 Managers came over and asked how I was doing and I did not make a face. I took their questions as genuinely concerned and I assumed good intent with everyone that asked me "how are you doing" and made unnecessary comments.

 My social capital was strong today. It has been. I pushed against it but these folks knew I was struggling and did not stop showing their love. I saw it. I felt it. I accepted it. 

 Other Self-Care Practices today:

  1. I took a meeting outside of the office which by the way was very productive. 
  2. I treated myself to a Matcha Green Tea Frappuccino. 
  3. I got home, sat in the sun. Ordered Chinese food and sat with my little family. 
  4. I breathed. I took it all in, one second at a time. 
This is how I felt at the end of the day!


 La DNA.
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